Each year I find myself getting caught up on what my New Year's resolution will be. It seems to always center around weight reduction, getting back into shape, etc. Although I still need to focus on those areas (too frequently, to be perfectly honest), this year I'd like to think I'm capable of resolving to accomplish something far greater....being kinder and far more understanding of those around me.
Not too long ago I got irritated by someone driving a 4x4 pickup truck far too fast and erratic (in my estimation), cutting me off on the highway. I was going the speed limit, but it wasn't fast enough for him, and he took it upon himself to speed past me, then cut me off - almost like he was trying to prove a point or something. Of course, I didn't respond well and said a few things in his direction that I probably shouldn't have. Not only did it not solve the situation, it made me irritable for a time afterwards. I allowed his actions to control my own behavior. Not good.....
So, how I can resolve to control my emotions in a more productive manor? How can I reprogram myself to get less upset and let things go? I can start by considering the following:
1. Not everyone sees things the way I do. Just because my perspective of things may feel right to me, in all likelihood the guy in front of me may not see it the same way. The guy who cut me off may have needed to be somewhere quicker than I was allowing with him behind me. Maybe he had a job interview. Maybe he had a sick child he needed to get to. Maybe he was late for an important meeting. Maybe he was just being a jerk, but why should I automatically make that assumption?
2. Realize that EVERYONE has their own issues to resolve. I shouldn't require others to act the way I think they should act, or say the things I think they should say. If everyone has a right to be their own person, shouldn't I allow them that right? Who am I to force others into my definition of being a good person?
3. Be considerate, no matter how bad the situation. I must realize that others will do and say things that are hurtful to me, but they may not realize it. I must understand I will say or do things that are considered hurtful by others as well. If I'm to do a better job of realizing that others don't necessarily mean to be hurtful, I must start with myself and consider what I say or how I respond first.
This year, I resolve to be more grateful for what I have, more patient with others and not take things so personally, and consider the fact that all of us have our own stuff to deal with on a daily basis. It starts with me....It starts with you. Let's do this together; what do you say?
A Common Man
